Engagement + Empathy + Credibility = Genuine Trust

In my last post, I railed on the Echo Chamber a bit for watering down the meaning of great words.

Truth be told, it’s not so much the overuse of the words that bothers me – it’s the lack of substance. Who am I kidding? Both of those things tick me off.

And then tonight, I met a young guy who proves that originality, intelligence, and even authenticity (yeah, I typed it) still exist. More about him in a bit.

To set the record straight, I love the word authenticity. I love what it is supposed to mean – which is something real, genuine, and not copied. What I hate is when it’s thrown around haphazardly because THAT dilutes the meaning of the word. So there you go.


My Special Skill

From all my years of experience in business – all my successes and failures – one thing I have become very good at is seeing the forest and the trees at the same time. To put it another way, I have a knack for seeing through the fog, the tangles, and all the details to see what is or is not genuine about people, organizations, and situations.

It Started On Twitter

Tonight I was personally thanking all of my new Twitter followers, which I always do. The vast majority of people don’t reply back – and I don’t expect them to. Most who do reply back say something like, “Thanks! You too!” or something brief like that…which is nice and appreciated.

The rest of that group (the minority) are the ones who really get what Twitter is for…engaging other people on a personal level.

Tonight a young guy who I thanked for following replied back and a nice Twitter conversation ensued in which I mentioned something from his site. The next thing I knew, I had an email notification that read “New Subscriber to Your Newsletter.”

I have to tell you that I LOVE seeing that message. You’d think I was five and I just spotted my Christmas presents under the tree. I can’t help it – I get downright giddy. But back to the point…

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The Email Exchange

Staying true to my own rants about being real and sincerely engaging people, I have taken to personally emailing every new subscriber after they sign up. Sure, I ask them the same several questions – but I hand-type most of the message and personalize it for each person.

In part of the email, I ask for the new subscriber’s feedback on the design, navigation, and content on my site. Most people say something brief and polite. Not this guy.

So what did I get back from this young guy in about five minutes?

Smart, constructive, detailed, and articulate advice that was immediately actionable. Not only was I happy to get the critique, I was ecstatic to see a young guy throwing himself into blogging who is so obviously sharp, insightful, and a pleasure to communicate with.


Out On A Limb

As someone who has spent many, many (but not too many) years recruiting talent in several different industries, I’m very confident in my ability to pick a winner…and that’s what I’m doing right now.

There’s nothing in this for me, and I seriously never heard this guy’s name before tonight. But set your bookmarks – this one is going to do well.

His name is Brandon Kasteler. At the time I wrote this post, his site Compound Capitalist is five days from launching. He’s a 21 year old student from Salt Lake who already has a solid 10 years of experience in the investment world. How many 21 year olds can say that?

After corresponding just a little with him, I feel safe in predicting this site is worth bookmarking. I’ve already subscribed.


Ummmm…So What?

Other than me turning you on to a new site, what does any of this mean to you?

It means that there is a formula for building genuine trust fairly quickly that you can duplicate.

In the last hour, Brandon…

  • Reached out to a new follower and put forth a sincerely friendly vibe (engagement)
  • Took the time to figure out where I’m coming from by checking out my site (empathy)
  • Subscribed to my site (engagement)
  • By request, gave a quality critique of my site that helped me (credibility)
  • By writing that email, showed me that he writes well and knows what he’s talking about (credibility)


The Genuine Trust Formula

Check out the words in parenthesis above. I don’t know if Brandon was taught this somewhere or if he is just that kind of person, but he hit every point of a formula that I’ve been preaching to my employees for years.

Engagement + Empathy + Credibility = Genuine Trust

No matter what business you’re in, if you engage people in a sincerely friendly manner, show them that you understand where they are coming from, and demonstrate that you have something valuable to say…people will listen to you. You will have their trust and you will have their ear.

Engagement + Empathy + Credibility = Genuine Trust


In business, no one owes you anything. You are not due an audience with anyone…ever. It’s up to you to earn their trust and show that you both genuine and worthy of their trust.

And when you do that…good things will happen.

What about you?
Tell me about what jumps out at you when you first come in contact with a new person.
What makes you trust them?
What makes you walk (or run) away?

About Gary Korisko

Gary is a battle-tested sales and marketing pro, copywriter, coach, and business strategist who teaches how to create worthwhile work on Reboot Authentic. Connect with Gary on Google+ and Twitter.

3 Replies

  1. Gary,

    First and foremost, I can’t begin to thank you enough for the mention and the kind words. It really was a pleasure getting to know you last night, and realizing how small of a world we really live in.

    My advice to anyone who is reading this: Gary’s Genuine Trust Formula is absolutely spot on. Make that formula your mantra, and then let it subconsciously guide your day-to-day actions and associations with individuals. You don’t need to (although technically, you could) write it down and follow step-by-step as you do that with people, but it’s much more natural to just let it flow. Each one of us is likely better in one area than another (I’m much better at empathizing with people than I am at engaging with them), so think about which area you may need to work on, and then focus on improving yourself in that area.

    I was raised to believe that authenticity (which is a word I also love) will always triumph. Gary, you do a fantastic job of sending that message home with your posts and over-arching theme of being yourself, and not just another clone.

    I’m ecstatic to be an insider, and I’m confident everyone else is, as well.

    1. Brandon:

      You’re welcome. But you know what? Being REAL stands out just like being full of BS stands out. The credit goes to you for being that way…and apparently to your parents as well for teaching you that. (Based on your comment)

      You’re clearly a sharp, sincere guy. I’m thrilled to have made your acquaintance…and to have you as an insider.

      Thanks for the comment – and I’m sure we’ll talk again soon.

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